Do you believe in the power of three? The old sayings of ‘third time lucky’ or ‘things run in threes’? I can’t say I run my life by it, but the things running in threes certainly seems to happen in my life. Usually the poop stuff. So can I put any weight in hoping that the third time is a charm?
Completely out of the blue we had two appointments arrive from the cardiology department. We knew the path we were on going forward, but using the previous time lines as a yard stick, I don’t think either of us was expecting these appointments until the start of next year. One is for more tests prior to an admission for a procedure. That special number three.
Husband reading the letter looked at me and said ‘This is the last time. If it doesn’t work this time I am not keeping going through this.’ I understand where he is coming from and it is completely his decision. On this I will not fight him. The prior two procedures have not been a resounding success. In all honesty, between them, they solved his issue for a grand total of one whole month. For me the last one was horrendous as I could hear everything. The urge to barge into the theatre was overwhelming.
Is there any more chance that this time will be any more successful? Apart from the third time being a charm that is? Well this time he has been on tablets for a good few months, and these are supposed to make the outcome more favourable. Favourable but not guaranteed. There are other options going forward that are considered after this procedure but that is a path we have also trodden.
That was more successful. It was a more invasive procedure. Apparently not a pleasant one from my husbands tales. Lets just say he used the phrase brain freeze and one hundred times worse. I don’t know about you but that does not sound appealing. When we discussed this alternative with the consultant and we mentioned that last time it lasted eighteen months. His reply astounded me. Anything over a year is considered a success.
Wow, a year is a success. Not setting the bar very high in my eyes. That said, it is a condition that many of us have that goes undetected and has little impact on our lives. So unless it is debilitating does it really need to be corrected? Will husband go for option two again if the third time is not a charm? I think it would be a reluctant decision.
So for now I am keeping my fingers crossed that the outcome, if not favourable, at least lasts longer than a month. Then we will have to sit down with the consultant and see which path husband wants to take. There is always the medication option with all the wonderful side effects. I know my husbands concerns and he will ask my views but as it should be the final choice will be his. I think I know the option he would like but whether that is tabled by the consultant is yet to be seen.
All I can do is be quietly supportive. Offer my opinion when asked and hope the third time will be the charm. A silent prayer may not go amiss, not that I am religious but I have yet to find a four leaf clover. A little bit of positive mental attitude can’t hurt either. My husband is more of a what will be will be person. Gosh I wish I could be more like that. So here is hoping what will be, will be successful. E x